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Team NZ
20 yrs ago
Our little man has a happy easy going nature however almost overnight he started clinging to both my husband and I and crying for no apparent reason (not due to falls). Have the terrible two's started already? Any suggestions on getting through the crying/whining phase?
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Brute
20 yrs ago
Hmmm, can I ask has he recently had any vacinations, like a combined triple or 6 in 1?? Often kids can react very badly having so many viruses in their body at the same time, and causes them to cry and cling-on all the time for no apparent reason, cause they are frightened not understanding what's going on with the strange feeling in their little bodies.
I still think its madness that they administer so many viruses in a single shot, but I'm not a medical person, and many say its very safe.
Otherwise, hopefully its just a case of dishing out some good old discipline with your little one. Have either of you been away for a break at all, this may also have an effect on children, as they don't understand why you are there one minute and then suddenly not, the next minute.
Good look.
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Hi Brute
Thanks for the thoughts. We have been away but we took him with us, and no vaccinations recently.
I am a strong supporter of discipline, however in this case he seems so tender for a usually robust, no hassles kid. Perhaps it could be as simple as growing pains and confusion with his body, we will have to wait and see.
Didnt know he was due any vaccinations, last ones were in NZ 6 months ago. Are they due here in HK at 18months? If so what are they usually for?
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Babies go through a clingy stage at this age - just bear with it, be loving and caring and it will eventually disipate. The terrible twos are nasty - not just miserable you will certainly notice a difference in nature.
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kar
20 yrs ago
I think it's normal for 18 months.
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I think it is the time they realise there is a world outside of themselves and they are a bit scared of it all, it takes a few weeks months for them to get used to the wider world they have discovered. Then at 2 they decide they need to control this world they have gotten used to.....and it continues downhill from there...;-)
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although a child's temperament can change quickly, and as they grow, it's not any surprising. However, if your child really changed OVERNIGHT, crying for no obvious reason, and very clingy.... I would suspect that he's not feeling well (physically) as opposed to attributing it to possible "terrible two's" tantrums.
My two year old actually didn't start her "terrible two's" tantrum phases until recently, she will be three years old in 3 months.
Depends how long your child has this phase lasted.... has it been only 1 day, 2 days? It could be sore throat, stomachache, ear infection ? etc.
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Hi All, thanks for your thoughts, have been giving him lots of cuddles and love, I sense you all are correct its just life and the world for him at the moment. Although last night he had a fever (Pamol is a godsend)and little sleep was had by all, this morning the little darling is very fragile. Taking him to the library and then quiet time with books today.
Dimac4- Your comment re terrible twos being nasty rather than miserable is probably quite true. And there is not an inch of nastiness in this little boy today.
Another learning phase for us....funny how when you think you have everything sorted, routine, play, food, sleep thats when it all changes again.
Keeps us on our toes.
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And will continue to keep you on your toes for the rest of their lives....
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Isn't that the truth! Before I know it he will be wanting to borrow the car! :-)
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oj
20 yrs ago
My eldest was a dream, however when my youngest literally hit 18months it was as though the devil had appeard in her place. We 'suffered' until she was nearly 3 years old and it was hard, but we muddled through. Giving clear boundaries, advising what's acceptable and when the tantrums got really tough, just a tight cuddle and whispers of 'i love you' until they were gone.
When she was a little older, say 2.5, we told her that Tantrum Tilly wasn't welcome in the house and she had to leave so we distnguished between the two and this helped her.
Good luck!!!!!
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MayC
20 yrs ago
My gosh, I feel like it's me talking instead of you, Team NZ.
I think that if you've been away, a sudden change of environment may trigger your sons' mood swings.
Take my 19 month old for example. We got back from Sydney 2 weeks ago, didn't want my maid and up till today, no one can give her the bottle or put her to sleep. She's still crying hysterically when I leave for work. She used to just fall asleep on her own but now she wants to climb on me, then sleep on top of me. I try to say no and get my maid to put her to sleep or give her the bottle but all I hear are screams and hysterical cryings from the room. Enough to make me rush in to take over. She's slowly getting used to it. Now I try not to come home when she's having a meal (she won't eat otherwise) and if I have to go out to run errands (lots still not done since I got back), my maid will put her to sleep before I come home. I want to be the one taking care of her when I come home from work but I also have to try not to spend "too" much time with her at this stage until she gets used to our maid again.
I was with her 24 hours a day for 16 days in Sydney so that may have explained it.
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MayC
20 yrs ago
My gosh, I feel like it's me talking instead of you, Team NZ.
I think that if you've been away, a sudden change of environment may trigger your sons' mood swings.
Take my 19 month old for example. We got back from Sydney 2 weeks ago, didn't want my maid and up till today, no one can give her the bottle or put her to sleep. She's still crying hysterically when I leave for work. She used to just fall asleep on her own but now she wants to climb on me, then sleep on top of me. I try to say no and get my maid to put her to sleep or give her the bottle but all I hear are screams and hysterical cryings from the room. Enough to make me rush in to take over. She's slowly getting used to it. Now I try not to come home when she's having a meal (she won't eat otherwise) and if I have to go out to run errands (lots still not done since I got back), my maid will put her to sleep before I come home. I want to be the one taking care of her when I come home from work but I also have to try not to spend "too" much time with her at this stage until she gets used to our maid again.
I was with her 24 hours a day for 16 days in Sydney so that may have explained it.
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Hi MayC, definitely parallels sounds like you may have hit it on the head though, you were with her 24/7 as I was with my little man around the clock.
As I work fulltime my husband looks after our son and when we were away it was my chance to spend time with him.
I can certainly relate to the climbing its like he can't get close enough, makes me laugh (albeit a little sadly) he almost seems to want to get back "in". I have done the same as yourself, resisting the urge to rush in at his cries, it isn't easy though. (Especially with the occasional quiet whisper of mother guilt.)
He seems to be calming down a little but gosh it tugs on the heart strings. I tell myself it is better for both of us to keep the original boundaries and as oj said tight cuddles and "i love you's" are the order of the day.
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