Any co-sleepers managed to get child in cot?

My LO goes in her cot to sleep (does give us a hard time) but wakes up a few hours later and if I don't being her into bed she is hysterical. I want to try for another baby so would love to get her in her cot all night. I know that I cannot do controlled crying and am just about to try the Elizabeth Pantley guide to no tears sleep. Using the 6 phases she suggests. Does anyone have any tips if they have sucessfully moved their child from their bed to a cot! She is 16 months old and due to illness last summer she had to sleep with me as I couldn't move without help. Thanks in advance!

You could try putting a ' bed ' next to your bed and when she comes in - tell her that is her new bed in mummies room. All it is a blanket or sheet with a pillow. After a while if she comes in don't have it set up - she can sleep on the floor next to your bed if she wants to sleep in your room. She will soon realise it is no fun. Summer is a good time to try it as it is warmer.


Worked with all our kids (but they were a bit older when we got it going - about 2-3years).

Elizabeth Pantley is all about the "gentle" removal method - meaning, it takes often weeks if not over a month to see results...so you must be patient and be consistent. If she sleeps in the cot, I would definitely keep her in there...you just need to figure out how to get her to stay calm. Pantley would probably suggest something like you sleep in the room next to her on the floor, and then gradually move away from her a bit at a time, slowly and surely.


I also was very reluctant to do control crying...but if you read Ferber's "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" you can adjust controlled crying to make it more suitable for you. It's actually not the horror that people make it out to be - you need to read the entire book and understand sleep and not just try "controlled" crying. I would say that since your child falls asleep in the cot, you should try and keep her there, and controlled crying would help you achieve this result a bit faster. It would require you to let your child cry for small intervals, gradually increasing in time. the LONGEST my daughter cried was 6 minutes...my friend also did it and the longest interval for her was 12 minutes. It may be worth a look - to see if you can adjust it. I found his intervals to be too long and ramped up too quickly, so I took a much easier and slower approach and still achieved my results.


Don't worry - if you're consistent, sleep is on it's way. I didn't sleep for a month after my newborn arrived, my older one didn't want to sleep and was up 6-7 times a night screaming and crying for me. After controlled crying - 5 days there was dramatic improvement (and hardly any crying) and bam - now she sleeps through..so does my newborn. It is possible. It will take longer with Pantley, but as long as you're consistent you can achieve some results.

Thanks to you both for that. I have been sick for a few days so have not tried anything so far so tonight I am going to do the E Pantley thing abd naybe look into CC in a bit more detail if that doesn't work! Thanks again