Will you will give in, at some point?

You are not being unrealistic, you just go with your flow and be yourself, to some extend is a good direction. Don't listen to your male friends. I don't have a clue why they have such a thought, reckon they are fairly narrow-minded. Never due to the fact that a man can assist you financially and get married, eventually will end up getting divorce and surroundings define you as gold digger etc. Now is the 21st century and no arranged marriage anymore!! There are lots of thing can make women happy besides marriage, it is not the last resort FOR CERTAIN. I am getting married in Sept, in fact I am so terrified in losing my independency and compromising in the future. Especially after you married, you cant dream your dream, so is it a happiness?? Last but not least, I am not encouraging you not to marry but is find someone you love and both feel comfortable to be with the rest of your life.

hello chat noir, don't be discouraged. you got good opinions from PDQ and Becs. it is better to be alone than to be in a relationship where you feel alone.


your financial problems are temporary, and it's better to owe money to the bank than to a man.


as for marriage...only if you are fortunate enough to find a good mate. but you can't do that until you are strong and confident in yourself, otherwise you'll attract the wrong kind of man, and you'll get married for all the wrong reasons. be strong and good luck :-)

perhaps you could set a deadline to go home and begin the next phase of your life - and by doing so you will have exerted some control over it. you won't feel so adrift if you set a date when you will return home and explore opportunities there.


of course be flexible - if you get a job offer the day before you leave, stay and pursue it! - but just knowing there is an endpoint to your current situation might help you psychologically.


don't think of it as giving up, but rather as the completion of a project that may or may not turn out as you had planned, and no matter what, you WILL embark on a new one.