Need ADVICE!!!

Okay, I asked the same question as raincatcher on relationships. (Why did you post this thread here too, FamilySecret) Anyways, just because you didn't get along with your family doesn't justify your not telling them about the marriage. If you moved to HK just to get away from your family, then they're sure very supportive by sending you money. They would've probably had no problem with you getting married had you told them. Seems like you were the one that cut off the communication. Good thing you want to patch things up now. Now I'm pretty sure they would be fine with this. Just make sure you tell them ASAP.

Are you also afraid to be confronted by the fact your hubby is not earning as much that you had to resort to borrowing money from them.

But you are both young, the future is yours to conquer.

Now that you have a baby, the more you should take the initiative, is'nt this the right time to forgive and forget and start anew. Have you tried family counseling.

The baby might be the most welcoming news for them, the grandparents.

1st,when both of you decided to get married, the accounts management should have been thought off. Since you did mention that your family come from a strict based, didn't you at least thing of any circumstances which might arise due to financial crisis. It's strange to think that you rather not have your parent's blessings but rather keeping borrowing cash from them. Don't you realise that you hiding the top secret of your married life is only going to hurt them more. How do you maintain a straight conversation with them each time you make a call.


You should have informed them 6 mths after your marriage. You make it sound like a thief robbing the riches of your parents.


Would you as a mother want your child to do the same thing which you have had done to your own mother??


Our parents come from a different generation, they were raised in a strictly manner. They wouldn't even dare to do what you have so boldly done.


Since you have already done something, is there any more hurt that they will not be able to withhold despite, their dissapointment, tears and hurt.


Just pick that phone if not pay them a visit. Show them their grandchild. It's their rights. Do not deprive them of it. Let them see their joy & pride.


S'pore