Toddler sleeping habits

My daughter is 20 months at the moment and still sleeps with me she will not sleep without me. She sleeps in her bed not her crib anymore because the crib is too small for her. So I put her to sllep in her bed while I pretend to sleep with her and than wake and leave her but at night she'll wake again sharp at 2 pm and look for me and I some time I try the process again but she will wake up and still look for me. I am pregnant now and am worried about how this will effect my situation with baby number 2. How do I train a 20 month old to sleep on her own she, is it too late.

I moved my daughter to her own room with her own bed when she reach 25 months. Till then, she was sleeping on her crib in our room. At around 20-25 months, she will wake up on most nights and 'see' if am next to her, then she will get back to sleep almost imediately. If not, she will start looking for me.


I guess this is a 'norm' during this transition period. Later, when they reach another period, this should phased out.


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I did this with my son.


At night when he woke I would sit in a chair in his room until he fell asleep again - no talking or eye contact.


Each night I moved my chair a little closer to the door until on the last night I was just sitting outside the door.


It worked for us but without a doubt a very tough (tiring) week.

I didn't have the exact problem as I've never slept with my daughter, but she had a sibling born when she was 20 months old, and right before that learned to hop out of her crib (to my dismay.) it started a whole craziness of coming to look for me and wanting me all night.


I asked the same questions - can you reason with a 20 month old? and actually you can set boundaries and teach her.


I found the Supernanny method - outlined above very helpful. But actually, the MOST effective was Richard Ferber's method. You should get his book. IT DOES involve some crying, but it's not too horrible and actually work wonders. At the same time I was struggling, two other moms on Asiaxpat were going through the same thing - with their first with seconds on the way. Both also used Ferber and both also solved the problems - all took us less than 2 weeks. His method may seem a bit harsh, but he does have adaptations in them -similar to what was outlined above.


I do recommend you get it squared away pretty solidly before your #2 comes. There will probably be a relapse after #2 comes, but if you've established it pretty well before, then it should be a fairly easy transition.


good luck!

I used to do this when i was younger, obviously as i'm 30 odd now, but remember my folks telling me.


Anyhow, my eldest used to do this.

She'd go to sleep on her own and then wake to get into bed with us, after about 3 months of this, she was about 20 months at the time, i would stop her before she got into ou bed and put her in her own bed telling her that if she did not like her bed then to sleep elsewhere (harsh i know) as this was Mummy and Daddy's bed and it wasn't fair because we were too big to share her bed. I remember waking up two mornings and finding her once on the floor and the other time in the bath. She decided after this that there was nowhere quite as lovely and comfy as her own bed and have never had a prob since.

My youngest, now 4, somtimes does it but i stop her before she gets in and puts her in her own bed.

Need to nip this sort of thing in the bud before it continues, i have a friend whose son STILL sleeps with them and he's..........6!

Obviously, this changes when kids are sick or something untoward has happened but my two know that when everything is back to normal, back to their own beds they go and they love it. It's like a treat.