Need some advice...

Hi Everyone,


I have posted here before, and if anyone has followed my thread, then you'll know that I recently seperated from my husband after I had found out that he was having an affair for 5 months. Even after I found out, he continued the affair while begging me to take him back, until she finally dumped him. It's been close to two months since all of this has happened and I feel like I haven't made any progress on getting over the pain I feel. I have a two and a half year old son to look after and everyday seems to be a struggle. Some days are better than others, but I still feel like I'm drowning in hopelessness. I took some time off of work since I couldn't face people at work and I feel like I have been hiding from the world because I can't face anyone. I'm not sure what to do. I have a million and one things to do, but can't seem to get my act together enough to do anything. And what's worse is that my husband has had no problems carrying on with his life and career and today found out that he even got the promotion he was aiming for. He's the one who cheated on me and our child, and yet I'm the one at home not able to face the world. I feel like a complete failure in life and even though logically I know I'm not at fault, I can't seem to get over this and move on with my life. I know I can never trust my husband again so there is no chance of recouncillation. So I need to move on and get on with my life, if not for myself, for my son. Right now it's my son that gets me up in the morning. Any advice on how to do this?

Do you have a good fiend that you can just pour all this out to? Is there someone who can mind your child whilst you maybe have a few hours/days to yourself?

From my point of view it's as though you haven't given your self time to take stock of his cations, process it, and realise 'hang on a minute, HE's the one at fault. I'm gorgeous, i'm a fantastic mother and i will and can pull through this and look better than ever'.

Men also have this ability to just 'carry on' when things around them have changed, i don't know how,they just do (and that's not a dig at men, it's almost a good trait) but one day he will suddenly stop and realse what a pillock he has been and will try and get back. Meanwhile you will have moved on to better and more wonderful things.

This happened to a friend of mine a few years ago and we just use to talk and talk, she had four kids, packed up and moved back to the UK. her husband folowed three months later 'to make another go of things' and lo and behold he's only moved to the UK becuase there where his mistress has reloacted.

My friend got wind of this, chucked him out and now, three years on, he has realised what an idiot he was, what he's missed out on and is begging her for forgiveness. She's having none of it.

So, Gilmore, take time and make time, take stock and realise how wonderful YOU are!

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