help with crying baby

To all the moms and dads out there, I have a 1mth and 6days old baby boy, during the daytime he seems very contented i.e I feed him and then he sleeps for about 2hrs but every evening around 8pm he cries non stop(even after we fed him) and this usually lasts till almost 12am. I'm not sure if he has colic or what, but his crying seems to be like he's in pain or something. By the way I am having a lot of difficulty in trying to get him to burp when I wind him. Does anyone have any good technique or suggestions, I am desperately in need of help!

Hi there, my little one had colic that started at 6 weks it started at 12pm and went on until 10 or 11 am every night!!!

It is something that can be quite hard to sort out.

I always burb by baby sitting up and having left hand on bubs chest or under chin supporting the head, with bub slightly leaning forward. then I start by rubbing bubs back with my right hand quite firmly in circular motions and then I pat him quite hard right between his shoulder blades. if this does not work straight away I let him lay down flat on his back for a couple of minutes and then try again.

A warm bath just before bub went to bed seemed to sooth him a bit.

Honestly i really had a tough time.... but now at 8 months bub sleeps through from 9pm until 9/10 am so it will get better.

there is no reason the colic stopped it just stopped one day. I tried everything all he drops I could buy and some times they worked one day and not the next.but if you give them the drops in the afternoon the feed before he usually gets colic it should help a bit.

gripe water or infacol are the best.

massaging his tummy gently also helped.


I remember feeling that I should know what to do and I should be able to fix it. that I should have all the answers because I was his mother, but in the end if he has no fever has a full tummy has a clean bottom and you have done all you can do place him in a safe cot and let him cry.

try to get los of rest as if you are tired too it just makes it just that bit harder to cope with.

good luck.

Thanks everyone for your advice, I will definately try some of the suggestions. By the way, I'm feeding the baby with formula, it was too much stress for me as I had the baby via c-sect. And you guys are right! I really need to get some sleep when the baby sleeps, I feel like a crazy mom and wife already!

I found it helpful to imagine the physical shape of the stomach inside the body: a soft bag, on the left side of the body, opening on the top left, then emptying on the bottom right. You want baby to be in position where the bubbles come to the top of the bag, not forced down underneath the milk. Hold him a bit upright as you feed him, then help him keep his body kind of stretched out, not crumpled up in a way that might catch bubbles or push them down. Also, try to make sure that baby has a good latch on the nipple so isn't swallowing a lot of extra air. Try not to let baby get upset enough to cry, because this can also result in air swallowing. (Feed him as soon as he roots, don't try to make him wait until he is upset, crying ans swallowing air, feels he's starving and tries to gulp milk very fast.) A burping position not mentioned yet is my grandmother's favorite -- baby's head in the crook of your left elbow, head looking outward on the outside of your arm, baby's tummy running down along the bone of your arm, with your hand supporting baby at his diaper, feet dangling down. You can walk around that way comfortably, and you can lower the baby's bottom so that his head is higher than his tummy, in the correct position for bubbles to rise to the surface. Then use your right hand to rub baby's back or pat. My grandma also puts the baby way up on her shoulder so that they are sort of stretched out and draped there, and then she thunks his back -- thunk . . . thunk . . . thunk -- harder than I would have imagined comfortable, but my babies loved it and I learned to copy this. Another thing some babies love is to have their tummies rubbed if they have some abdominal pain, some pressure for some reason seems to help sometimes, and they might like to have something to press their feet against. Swaddling sometimes helps, a baby swing sometimes helps. And if all else fails, you might want to consider trying a different brand of formula or a soy based formula as some children are allergic or have intolerances. A few of my friends have had great relief after formula changes, unfortunately this often means a dramatic jump in price.

My first did this, second didn't and this is what i did and it workds like a dream.....


.place bubs on blanket/sofa in front of you so you are facing (you sitting him lying)

. then place both of your hands on his tum and move your left hand in a clockwise position

. with right hand follow left hand to make a half moon and repeat


I did this along with bringing her knees to her tum, pressing gently and this worked out any wind, etc.....that seemed to cause the 4 hours of non stop crying. I was also told that when you are doing this use some natural oil, like warmed olive oil and (this may sound daft) tell bubs what you are doing 'i;m going to massage your tummy now with my hands and some oil'.


Good luck, get lots of rest and if it helps, remember that there are lots of Mums going through the same thing. x

My baby cried for a whole month since 1 month like yours from 11pm to 2am every night. He was able to burp each time so we assumed that it was not colic. We then gave him a dummy (which we were against but in the end resorted to one) and the crying stopped instantly.


I know it's not the best thing to give him but it did settle him and he was able to sleep soundly. It was hard for us hearing him cry every night reallt - his lips quivered, his face very red and no noise coming out of him which scared us.

Thanks everyone for the advice, I also want to know if it is normal for my baby to throw up some milk everytime he burps. I know a little is fine, but he seems to throw up quite a lot,I actually had to take him to hospital once, because he splurted out the whole bottle of milk. The doctor told me that my baby was the type that can easily intake a lot of wind in his stomach(something to do with his digestive system!). so I'm just wondering has any moms experience this with their baby?

god this post brings back so many memories...I got quite sick at 3 months into breastfeeding and had to start feeding formula to my bub..... the first time he had it he loved it so much he drank 1 bottle and then half another one:) one hour later after being successfully burped, bub spewed the whole hing up... he was completely covered from head to toe in formula... I FREAKED OUT!!!. he has always been a little piglet when it comes to food and drinks.

one more thing you can try is to try burping half way between the bottle being finished then bub can have the other half and then get burped again.

good luck

Hi white rabbit, I feel a lot better now knowing that I'm not the only one with this problem. But did you feed your baby again or did you wait awhile before feeding him again. I'm totally lost in taking care of my baby!!Anyone having the same experience

really just go with your gut instinct.... feed when you think he is hugry.

I remember feeding every 3 to 4 hours when bub was 1 month old , My bub still always spews up a little milk after a feed and he is now 8 months old but now if I dont manage to wipe it off the floor in time he crawls straight through it (nice).have you tried using a dummy?

Even as I'm writing this, my baby just splurted out half the bottle of milk!!Anyway I guess I just have to keeping on trying.Thanks again for all the advice anyway.

Many babies have fussy spells with unsettled crying behavior frequently occurring in the evening. Often they cluster feed which means they need several hours of feeding or will feed on and off for several hours. Babies also have growth spurts that require more frequent feeding at those times.

You may also try wind drops such as Infacol, that sometimes help, snug swaddling, a warm bath or wearing your baby in a sling. Colicky unsettled behavior subsides with time and maturity by around 12 weeks.



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hi there. Did u try with eucalptus oil? (parrot brand frm australia) After you giving him a bath, put a little oil on ur palm - ((do not use much coz its has very strong smell), rub under his feet, his both knee, at his back, tummy and his head. try if it working. I wish you good luck with the baby and try to get some rest.

I had a colicky baby before > at 2 wks old, the crying starts after 7pm-12 midnight on good nites, throw up after feeding.

Padaetrician's visits resulted in -

1. Formula change & reduced the ratio of milk formula:water ( less formula> 3 hrs !!) and shared that colic can last 3-6 mths.

2. Improve on burping baby - support jaw/neck and tilt baby forward, cup 1 hand and thump the baby's back to burp and not just one burp, but to continue for another round of burping.

The thumping scared me as it does sound loud but I was assured that it is the "palm cupping" that makes it sound so loud.

My babysitter added steps 3 to the above:

3. oil to rub lightly on baby's stomach - after bath and bewteen lunch and night feedings. Pour a bit on palm, rub together with both hands to warm it and then massage onto baby's stomach.

The baby poot out wind which had family laughing.

After 1-2 wks, I had a less colicky baby.